Saturday, October 01, 2016

Be who you Desire. Be what you want to Receive!

I remember as a little girl, how I idolized beautiful dark skin Black Women. It's not that women of a different race, or of a lighter complexion lacked in beauty. It was simply, that I could easily identify with the features of dark skin Black Women. As a little girl, their shinning was my shinning. So, when I would encounter a beautiful dark skin Black Woman, be it within my family or other arenas, I'd have in my mind a vision of what type of relationship I wanted with them. I envisioned myself as their little sister, they supporting me, showing me the ropes etc. You get the point. A secondary Mommy, but more like the cool big sister.

As life would have it, for one reason or another, besides my Mom and my Sister, I never truly developed that type of relationship with the women I encountered. Rather, as I've gotten older, and broadened my perspective, I've developed that type of relationship in the most unexpected places, from a diverse group of women.

This taught me a few lessons:
1. Don't limit yourself to what you see, or what you know
2. Don't place expectations on others
3. Be open to people. Not just a particular set of people.

Back to the point at hand. Now in my 30's. I can accept the responsibility of having young girls look up to me. I say that because I've developed a stronger relationship with God, I've settled into a Church community, and I have a strong sense of self. Meaning, I'm good with being me, authentic me. Thus whomever I'm interacting with gets a fresh dose of Chanda, lol.

When I joined my church, I initially struggled to find my place or fit within that community. Namely because my church is predominately Yoruba. In fact, I still struggle. I'm Ibibio and have been raised in America. So, the interaction culturally is off. I try, but it's a relationship that will continue to develop with time and humility on my part.

With my struggles to fit in, I often perceived the church members to be judgmental towards me. I even thought that their kids were judging me. Now let's be honest, some of them probably were and still are, lol. But as I've spent more time within this community, I began to realize that some of the kids were watching me beyond judgment. Some of them we're just curious. Thus I had to change my reaction towards them, from a defensive standpoint, to one in which I would have wanted as a child. So long story short, if there's something that is deficient in your life, or someone missing from your life, be that something or someone for another person. You know best, how and what you wanted. So serve the people. Maybe God was intentional, so that you would know exactly what to give someone else, and would have the understanding of how it would feel to receive that gesture.


Monday, September 26, 2016

Accept that you will stand out!

God, I am not there yet. But I'm trying. I see you have a vision beyond me, for me. I see you. I'm trying. Continue to strengthen and guide me. In Jesus Name


The struggle is real. But God is faithful. I will continue to push myself until the walls break down (whatever those walls are for you, insert here). So, I'm entering a new season which requires that I start trusting people. For the past few years, I've been in some form of isolation. I've been around people, however there's been but so far in which I've allowed them in. In fact I've been living in a world, where I'm constantly retreating to God. Nothing wrong with that, but I can't hide behind God. Let me rephrase that. You can't turn off a part of the world. It's either you turn it off, and miss both the Good and bad parts, or keep it on (staying connected to it) and experience both the Good and bad parts.

Now here's the thing, when God blesses people. He typically does it through other people. So, you need to be around people. I've heard and seen this concept manifest. Most of my blessings, if not all have come through people, from God. What about ones vision and purpose?

I understand ones purpose and vision to be connected to service. The best way to serve God, is through people. You serve people, you serve God. Through service, you connect to others and become connected to God. Through service, your vision and purpose manifest or are sharpened. As in you gain confirmation: this is where I'm meant to be, or what I'm suppose to be doing. Or run - run Swiss Robinson, danger danger. (Please don't mind me, my friend says that all the time, and that's how I interpret what I hear.)

Ok, so what is the bottom line. I need to drop the walls, and allow a team to form, so that I can execute God's purpose and vision. I can't do it alone. I also can't delegate effectively, if I don't trust and let go. In order to move to the next dimension, I need to open my heart and trust God.  Please note, that you need to stay connected to God, in order to discern who you should allow into your inner circle. In fact even your outer circle.

Please note, that your vision won't manifest until you work towards manifesting someone else's vision. There are several lessons to be learned and growing pains with this. Which are all necessary. However, this is a topic for another day.

Happy New Week!


Thursday, September 22, 2016

Read The Word!

Entering into a new season, why not challenge yourself to reading the word from beginning to end. Equip yourself. You might not master it, but now you have a point of reference.

Saturday, September 17, 2016

Forward Ever Backward Never

Often we flirt with things of the past. We think the you today is smarter, brighter, prettier and more equipped to manage those things we couldn't manage "x" number of years ago. We think the me today can take that past thing and turn it into a happy ending (hehe). So here you go, inviting foolishness into your future.

But let me challenge you. Could it be, that you already took the best things of the past into your future. Meaning the things that stung, that hurt, and challenged you, have now developed you. They have created and strengthened this present you.

But now, after stepping into this new level of you, you decide to look back at the scraps in the past, and connect with the dead things (that you didn't carry the first time round into your future), with the hopes of giving it life. Why.

Monday, September 05, 2016

Level Up - You are A Product of Your Environment

You are the company that you keep. It's hard for even the strongest character to not be influenced by those that they are continuously around or by the things they consistently see and or hear. It's inevitable that one develops a level of intimacy with their daily routine. So mind the company you keep, and the messaging you receive.

With that said I think it's important to be part of a church that is growing. Seriously. In the physical. Spiritual growth is great. But we live here in the physical realm. Thus any group or association your tied to, should be developing and evolving. Meaning if your part of a church, there should be a vision, and a manifestation of that vision. This concept applies in every arena of our life. Don't hang around dead things. They can't give you life. So take a step back and assess all areas of your life.


Sunday, September 04, 2016

The Battle is Always for your Mind

Hey Guys- Happy Sunday!

A quick note to you. Stay calm, stay focused, and protect your mind. I'll add your heart to that. I remember listening to a Touré Roberts sermon a few months ago. Where he stated, the enemy doesn't want your things, he wants your mind. If he can get you to think that there's no hope, that you're worthless, that there's no room for you in Gods Grace and Mercy. Then he's got you. He's won. He doesn't need your things, he wants your soul.

So how do we apply this concept to our daily lives. Simple.
1. Stay connected to God.
2. Walk away from sin. It's the easiest way to stay connected to God.
3. Keep your circle positive. Surround yourself with people that deposit into your life. Positive deposits only.

4. Stay away from people that don't allow you to be yourself. If you find that your trying to prove your value to someone, to anyone, then let them go.
5. Protect your eyes and your ears. Be mindful of what your consuming. Music, TV, Gossip, BS. Self depreciating messages.
6. Stay away from those that want you stay at your current level. Nobody has time for that.
7. Arrest your mind. Often we get caught up in wayward thoughts. Nostalgia takes a hold of us. If you find yourself dwelling on something that takes you to a low place, you need to actively work through that, and move on to healthier thoughts.
8. Learn to FORGIVE yourself. (And others) We've all done things we aren't proud of. Facts. Acknowledge it, repent, forgive, and move on.